A unique side of military life is deployments. There is a lot of stress leading up to a deployment. Field exercises, floats, preparations, and separations. After that departure, back at home, a new journey begins. Sleep routines are interrupted. Especially if you are used to sleeping with your partner. If you are experiencing deployment and dealing with the emotions that are leading to disrupted sleep, try these solutions.

Create a new routine. Creating a new sleep routine does not replace or remove your partner; it creates a new predictable pattern. If you create a new routine in the hours before bed, eventually, your body and mind will be relaxed and prepared for sleep at the same time every night.

Anxiety

Anxiety is a repetitive emotion during deployment. Well-meaning family members send an article on every incident in the country or with any military ship, asking about the family member. It leads to being on edge and can disrupt sleep. The anxiety leads to restlessness. Take the focus off the anxiety by focusing on relaxing just prior to bed. Take a warm bath and avoid electronics two hours before bed. This allows for a shift in focus prior to bed. Add a weighted blanket and a sound machine at bedtime. These tools can combat anxiety preventing restful sleep.

Loneliness

When you are used to sleeping with someone else in the bed, and the loneliness makes it difficult to sleep, try adding a pillow to that person’s side of the bed or sleeping with a body pillow. Roll up a blanket on that side of the bed to add to the weight of the bed. Some military spouses shared that they put their spouse’s t-shirt on a pillow or a stuffed animal and slept with that to have the comforting smell of their spouse, all while being able to cuddle, allowing them to sleep.  If children are comforted by dolls with their parent’s pictures on them, it makes sense that adults are comforted by these things as well.

Restlessness

When feeling restless and unsettled, the Sleep Foundation recommends focusing on relaxing rather than sleep. This sleep method was utilized by military service members when deployed during World War II. First, work by relaxing the face and neck, and slowly focus on the body parts below – first the shoulders, arms, and hands, then the torso, legs, and feet. Visualizing a relaxing scene. If your relaxing scene is interrupted by worries or thoughts, don’t focus on them; instead, focus on repeating the phrase “don’t think,” and focusing on this helps to remain relaxed.

If you wake up in the middle of the night due to restlessness, try sipping on warm decaffeinated tea or milk. Do not turn on screens where blue light could signal your brain to turn on. Instead, focus on drinking the relaxing, warm liquid.

Fear

Coupled with anxiety, fear can rule the home and the mind during a deployment. The ideas of what could be happening “over there” and at home can prevent one from sleeping. To focus at home, consider a security camera or house alarm system to provide a sense of comfort and awareness. If you are on edge worrying about what could happen at home, setting an alarm allows for peace of mind.

Having a dog at home also eases the mind. It is a ready alarm and a friendly companion to combat fear.

Deployments are periods filled with anxiety, loneliness, restlessness, and fear. While these emotions are common and expected, they do not have to rule the sleep routine with the right tools and preparation.

The Scholarships for Military Children Program was created to recognize the contributions of military families to the readiness of the fighting force and to celebrate the role of the commissary in the military family community. Scholarships for Military Children Program is now open and accepting applications through February 15, 2023 for the 2023 school year.

For scholarship year 2023-24, Fisher House Foundation will award 500 scholarship grants of $2,000 each. The selection process will begin immediately following the application deadline of Feb. 15, at 11:59 p.m. PST

Funding for the program comes from commissary business partners and other contributions to Fisher House Foundation designated specifically for the scholarship programs.

“We thank the Defense Commissary Agency for partnering with us to provide scholarships to our youngest members of the military community,” said Ken Fisher, chairman and CEO of Fisher House Foundation. “We also appreciate the donors and supporters who value how important our military families are and support them through our scholarship program.”

Selection qualifications are straightforward. Requirements include completing the application; submission of the student’s official transcript indicating a minimum cumulative GPA of 3.0 or above on a 4.0 scale for high school applicants, or college transcript indicating a cumulative minimum GPA of 2.5 or above on a 4.0 scale for students already enrolled in college; and a 500-word essay. The subject of this year’s essay is listed at the militaryscholar.org website under “Scholarships for Military Children.”

Eligibility for the program is determined using the Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System database. Applicants should ensure that they, as well as their sponsor, are enrolled in the DEERS database and have a current military dependent ID card. The applicant must also be planning to attend or already be attending an accredited college or university, full time, in the fall of 2023 or be enrolled in a program of studies designed to transfer directly into a four-year program.

Applicants who are awarded a full scholarship to attend a college or university or receive an appointment to one of the service academies or affiliated preparatory schools are not eligible to receive funds from this program. A full scholarship is usually defined as one that provides for payment of tuition, books, lab fees and other expenses. Get more information on the program and apply here.

All rules and requirements for the Scholarships for Military Children program, as well as links to frequently asked questions are available at militaryscholar.org.

Fisher House Foundation also has a free, easy to use custom scholarship search engine tailored to military families called “Scholarships for Service.” It’s available for both mobile devices and desktop computers at militaryscholar.org.

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The shorter days, longer dark hours, and colder temperatures lead to “winter blues.” Per the American Academy of Family Practice, about 10-20% percent of people may have mild winter blues, about 10 million people by the numbers.

The winter blues by definition, is the feeling of depression or deep unhappiness associated with the season of winter. The National Institute for Health calls this more of a feeling than a diagnosis.

Tips

1. Get More Light: Sit by a window throughout the day, so you are exposed to more daylight. If you are able, get out and walk as much as possible. If you have a long commute to work, consider taking a 20-minute walk during your lunch break to get some sunshine. This is especially important if you work in a building without windows. Light therapy is a treatment modality for more severe cases of winter blues called Seasonal Affective Disorder. The light is meant to replace the missed daytime hours experienced in the summer and fall days. While getting outside in the natural light will not replace all the missed sunlight hours, it will provide much-missed sunlight. Don’t forget your sunscreen when taking in your vitamin D.
2. Eat Healthy: While your body will crave carbohydrates when having symptoms of the winter blues, eating healthy and balanced meals, including fruit, vegetables, and fish, can help combat those sad feelings. Meal plan with healthy meals to avoid snacking on sugary treats that are abundant at the holidays. Eating sugary carbohydrates can lead to sugar spikes and drops, which can increase feelings of sadness. This doesn’t mean you cannot indulge at all, with everything in moderation.
3. Be active: Keeping up a regular activity schedule will help boost your energy and your mood through the mood-enhancing chemical of serotonin. The CDC recommends 30 minutes of exercise daily, for a total of 150 minutes a week. While this can feel like an overwhelming task with long work hours, a commute, and perhaps even parenting and the taxi cab life for activities. If breaking up the exercise into 15-minute increments in the morning and in the evening is more manageable, do it. Perhaps get in 15-20 minutes of cardio in the morning and 15-20 minutes of yoga in the evening to prepare for rest and relaxation before bed.
4. Get Outside: Changing your surroundings can change your mood. Bonus that getting outside during the day exposes you to more light and provides an opportunity for exercise.
5. Get Plenty of Sleep: Your circadian rhythm changes with the change in sunlight, but this doesn’t always equate to more sleep during the darker hours. Getting an appropriate amount of sleep improves mood lability and can combat the winter blues.

If your winter blues continue despite utilizing healthy eating, routine exercise, and getting plenty of sunshine, and the sadness begins to interfere with your activities of daily living; this may be Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD. Seasonal affective disorder is a medical diagnosis and may require medical interventions like medication. Someone experiencing SAD does not necessarily require daily medication but beginning medication and/or therapy can help manage symptoms. Contact your primary care provider, or reach out to a mental health professional if your winter blues are affecting your daily life.